By Adv. Nishi.S
Sexuality whether it is hetero, homo, lesbian or self is only one of the various lust (interest) of a living being among other lust ,which is more vibrant compared to the others. Nothing comes from a body without the participation of mind. Two persons get sexually attracted only when their sexual energy has similar or same wavelength. Adolescents tend to have sex, only because the seeds of such a lust sprouts at that age. Maturity is the state of mind and body and the role nature plays in it.. It has nothing to do with the present law which declares a person of 18 or 21 year old as matured. In order to rescue the human culture beyond the borders of perversions and atrocities, social norms were set which by the passage of time turned into culture and tradition. Unfortunately, due to ignorance, blind beliefs and imitating others, the purpose of those norms lost in due course of time. When DNA combinations leave heritage as well as rooms for permutation and combinations; lesbians, gays and many more take births.
Taking into account the science of spirit, mind and body, spirit is a constant and is same in each living being, where this constant spirit which is equal in all, act as God. When a thought arises in a spirit, mind takes birth and once mind starts working, multiple thoughts arise and give way to sensations which produce biochemical reactions which leads to the formation of matter/body. The birth of a mind with a single thought which gets multiplied within fractions of a second can be compared to nuclear reactions just for an example to get an idea. In due course of time these thoughts become a huge database and self programme itself to form a DNA pattern. The change of mind leads to change of DNA. Modern scientists may not accept this as these are not experimentally proved. Just like one cannot sense the movement of the Earth, change in DNA also will be negligible. When a creature like worm with less complicated DNA changes its shape to a caterpillar, it happens in a short period of time. But with each rebirth the caterpillar changes its DNA and forms the part of evolution. In each rebirth the previously accumulated knowledge gets stored as a seed and saved get saved a DNA pattern which can be compared to a micro chip and will be carried on to the next birth. From this it can be concluded that knowledge and complications in DNA increases with each birth. All these facts were experienced and noted in various scriptures and stories by the sages and prophets in the East. Even the westerns scientists and prophets were influenced by the principles underlying these scriptures and had manifested in different ways.
Sexual practices in different culture
Lust of the mind can be satisfied only through a physical body. Mating was allowed in western culture at the age of puberty as their knowledge were limited to the needs of physiological structure alone but the eastern culture performed marriage under the guidance of the elderly. The concept of child marriage which prevailed in ancient times was to unite the appropriate souls and build a psychological bondage from early age. But various invasions into the eastern culture got the concept misinterpreted, ruined and paved way to forceful marriage and transformed marriage into a business culture, which purely drained the sanctity of marriage. .
As the most vibrant lust being the sexual lust, carried from lives after lives, the institution of marriage is an output to satisfy it. Even though sexual relation produces some bio chemicals which boost human health as referred in modern science, I am not inclined to describe it as an exercise, because these bio chemicals in a body are the by products of the deep lust buried in one’s mind and it varies from person to person. When one person is raped or molested, the bio chemicals produced in the body of such person are harmful as it is done without consent. So I would rather insist to share sex each other with love and affection along with awareness and sanctity. Sharing dreams and concepts of sex with each other and performing it through the body till the mind is satisfied leads to realize the spirituality within the couple. So it is important to choose the right partner.
It will be inevitable to change partners if the right partners are not united. But changing partners and sexual relations with multiples partners under infatuation will lead only to sexual perversions and more complicated mind, culminating to complicated DNA formations. The transformation of a human being from the state of a worm/spem from births after births, carry in its data base- the lust for sex which it continued for millenniums throughout its numerous lives of animal culture. It is experienced by sages as well as meditators/yogis that only human body is capable of awareness to the sensations happening in the body. Even though animals are capable of sensations, they are not aware of their sensations. Hence an animal can never get free from its lust. Animal sex is only a process to satisfy the mere lust and procreation as they are not aware of the sensations of sex. They are only capable of maintaining stillness in their body to catch their prey by maintaining a yogic posture and not the mind. The human body alone is capable of cleansing the mind.
Sex as a spiritual aspect
The eternal goal of a human birth is to attain enlightened. But human beings leading normal matrimonial life are not capable of jumping directly into a spiritual life. For entering into a spiritual life, mental cleansing is inevitable. Mental cleaning can be done through numerous ways. One such way is sexual relation. There lies the purpose of marriage. Spiritual sex happens when the spouses accepts the souls of either parties with all limitations. It can also be termed as sacred sex. Only once when the limitations are accepted, they can be rectified. It is a process of exchanging the merits of each other and deactivating the demerits, to compile the data bank of two minds to one, for the removal of imperfection of both the spouses. In other words such a couple is like the two sides of a coin. That is why Hindu texts refer marriage as sanctity. Entering into sexual relation considering it as spiritual ecstasy, release tremendous energy which awakens the sleeping life forces within a physical structure leading to spiritual journey.
Spiritual sex is the beginning of the merging of two minds with the help of physical structure. But sex done with awareness alone could make the mind unite or else the couples will stay as two individuals. The unity happens when both possess one mind. The starting symptom of such a stage is that when one touches the body of the spouse, both feels touching their own body. The energy level of the two physical structure sinks. When the mind merges, the feelings and sensations of the spouse can be felt each other, beyond space. At such a stage, orgasm can be attained even in the absence of physical body of the spouse. But the merging of mind to such a state needs too much time, which may not be enough to comply in a single birth.
Life and Soulmate
Even from the starting of the Vedic periods and its allied records marriage under the practice of Hindu system was a spiritual tie between the couples from birth to birth. Life is an unlimited journey through different physical structures and soul mates are the partners whom they choose in that journey. The Vedic text of Shiva Purana elaborately describes how to find out a soul mate and how to lead a sexual life in ecstasy. Sexual relation between such couples leads to spiritual sex and ultimately get enlightened. Most of the ancient temple sculptures depict such evidences. The rituals in different Hindu temples depict the way to worship different family relations. The essence of idol worship is only to create role models in life. But unfortunately those rituals remains blind, and are not followed in life. Ancient Indian culture followed temple rituals for role modeling in life but modernization had created a culture to view the nudity and sexually on ramps declining the privacy and sanctity of sexual relation. So it would be better to keep in mind that entering into sexual relation focusing the physical structure alone, without love and affection, deteriorate awareness in spiritual aspect and will lead to perversions and mental impurities which makes no difference from animal culture and the above law with regard to the same spouse births after births does not apply to such people. They can only continue their animal life in the human body.
Interpretations and malpractices regarding marriage
As per the Vedic records unity through the marriage is for the purpose of complying spiritual duties. But ignorance regarding the understanding of spiritual aspects, the spiritual duties gradually got renamed as religious duties.
Sathi system was another atrocity against women folk. As per the Hindu texts, Sathi was neither a widow nor had she jumped into any pyre or she was forced to do so. When one of the spouses dies, and if the other survives naturally, that itself shows that they are not united spiritually and so is eligible to find out the right soul mate. But some may not remarry as they would have lost their partner when they started accepting them as their soul mate. It is the right of a particular person whether to marry or remarry. Society has nothing to do with that. But persons possessing different motives for material benefits alone if get married will never be able to get united not even spiritually but also emotionally, physically, socially or financially, and the outburst is the splitting of two in the name of “DIVORCE”.
When you say you love somebody, whether it is your partner, parent, children or even friend, actually do you love them? Is it not the reality that you love them for your satisfaction. Even if you become sad in loving somebody, the data base in your unconscious mind is filled with the “satisfaction” of sadness. If you are not satisfied in loving them, will you love them? It’s for you to think. May all be blessed to lead a happy journey with the right soul mate.
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